Trust the Process

Talking to several friends, as well as pondering my own circumstances, it seems to be a season of uncertainty and change. Both are words, as well as feelings that I’m rather uncomfortable with, but I’ve come to accept them as opportunities for assessment and adjustment. There’s a Bible verse that says, “Though he give you the bread of adversity and water of affliction, yet he will be with you to teach you,” (Isaiah 30:20). In my humble and limited Bible knowledge, I interpret that to mean though we will have challenging seasons, there is a reason and a lesson in the difficulty. Sometimes we have to take a step back in order to make 2 steps forward. In addition to that, it is often during these darker moments that we are forced to figure out not only how to get to the light, but to keep it shining. My good friend, celebrity stylist and designer, Shun Melson often tells the story of being fired from an upscale shoe boutique inside Atlanta’s Phipp’s Plaza. At the time, she felt all those negative emotions such as fear, bitterness and anger. She allowed herself a momentary pity party but quickly got back on her grind and I don’t mean clocking into another 9 to 5; she went to work on herself, which eventually lead to her working for herself. Shun realized that she had the perfect opportunity to start fresh and create the life she always wanted to live. One of the best gifts of being on the bottom is you can’t fall any lower. After analyzing her skillset, interests and desires, as well as utilizing all her resources, her new career in fashion was birthed or "fashun" as she calls it. Trusting the process is really about using the periods of “I don’t see how I’m going to recover from this,” “why do I always find myself in this same situation,” and “what should I really be doing,” to put all your chips on the table to see what you’ve got to work with and then work. The blessing and lesson in trusting the process is that you’re developing new confidence and spiritual stamina that would’ve otherwise not been revealed to you. We learn far more in a crisis than we do when life is going smoothly. Whoever coined the phrase “hindsight is 20/20,” told a big truth. When we reflect back on those dark times, we realize that the light does shine again and usually brighter than we would’ve ever imagined. So trust that what you’re going through has presented itself to make you and not break you. Push through and keep hope.